Love and Kindness…I feel that is the basis of Living Joyfully, the basis of Lent and the Easter season, the basis of Advent, the basis of Halloween….
and the truth behind St. Valentine and of many celebrated festivities and rituals that are related in timing but not in name all over the world.
When you begin to live daily with the intention of Love and Kindness, you also begin to see that the opposite is clearly in existence. (Heavy Sigh) Gratitude is a way of bending the mind and heart into the essence of Love and kindness, click here for my petite gratitude efforts.
There is some form of shadow in all things we cultivate, the Life balancing nature of the Guna’s. Of late I find myself struggling to work out my past choices! What!? Why am I concerned with that now? I remember how I got to where I am, but the choices I made, decades ago still have repercussions today. I thought I was smarter. I thought I understood human nature and Love. And I have had all this negative Self talk, that really does not appreciate anything. A very frustrating time. And most of all…I see it in my students and my clients, this negative cycle of hurt thyself.
The cure is obvious from the wisdom of Ayurveda and Yoga have a great rule: “Like increases Like and Opposites reduce.” What does that mean? read on!
To be Free, to be Liberated does demand some amount of Self study, so as to understand human nature, we can only begin with where we are, who we are now…our Self. Yesterday I was reading a small passage from the Tibetan New Year writings…
” Give up doing wrong, and do what is wholesome. Whatever happiness and sufferings you undergo, Regard them as the result of previous actions.
Always act in accord with the Dharma.” Yogi Shabkar Tsogdruk Rangdrol
Thankfully I saw what I had been missing…it has been my own misunderstanding, misconception, my own ego driven spiral downwards that has led me on a thought process of sad, low, Self blaming attitude. What was I missing? Nothing…but what do I have!!
Everything I have ever wanted is with me, but the nature of the Ego is like a little child in a sweet shop.
And those projects I am working on are an expression of all that I have, and what is coming towards me is always what I need to grow and progress, to fulfill my Dharma.
“whatever Happiness and sufferings you undergo….” I had been so busy thinking of the ‘sufferings’ that I completely forgot about the Happiness that has been a result of past Actions! And I have been blessed with Happiness in abundance.
“whatever Happiness and sufferings you undergo regard them as a result of previous actions.”
This phrase released me. Happiness is a by product of Love and Kindness.
Happy is a frame of mind, but it comes from the slow and not very easy process of allowing Love and kindness to be present in all that we do, all that we say, all that we hear, all that we think.
Love our mistakes, Love our fearful childlike Self, Love our misjudgments and mismanagement’s, Love our anxiety to be the Best we can, Love our dreams that have not come true, and those dreams that have materialised. Love while we can, so should the day ever come where we can’t Love even for one moment, we remember the Joy that it brings.
Love and love some more our choice blindness of others misdemeanors, for those who hold rancour, bitterness and the untruths they spread. For those whom may not even know us, and challenge our energy and our sense of Self.
It is those who are ‘missing’ something, they challenge us. Their pain could be ours. Pain unspoken is an energy that multiplies. This snowball effect often transforms into some form of anger, anxiety or fear.
It is only Love and kindness with Equanimity that will help in the deepest chasm of any relationship-most especially the relationship we have with our Self, and our authentic potential.
May we all feel love and kindness each day, and let it move around us, in us, through us.
Go Gently as a butterfly wings touch the air, exhale and smile.
Today my intention is to choose Love for myself; in all my mistakes and perfections, so I have a chance to Love others more.
And Happiness is now Here.
Kelly Marie Mills